Men Who Take Baths

Chris

Toronto, 2019
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How long does it take to cancel someone? No time. How long does it take to think critically? To learn? It takes time.

What is the biggest challenge facing gender equality in 2019?

Men have to start treating women properly and respecting shit that they say. Women are smarter than men. Without women, where the fuck would we be? We’ve got to be real about that.

And as much as men need to respect women, women can’t cancel everybody. There are some slimy-no-good-piece-of-shit-trash-ass-people on this planet but there is a difference between slimy, repeat offenders and somebody who did something wrong and corrected their shit and have done the work to rehabilitate themselves and put themselves out there again in a positive way. You can’t cancel everybody because some of the people you’re canceling are huge voices and right now that’s what we need. We need people to bridge the gaps.

We’re in a time where we say believe the victims, and I’m like, okay, that’s a good way to start but are we actually believing the victims or people who are saying they’re victims? We’re going to have to find a way to figure that out because there is someone else on the other side of that story. Where is the bridge?

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We have to be able to have disagreements without disrespect.

It’s a lot, but the biggest thing is being willing to listen. We have to be able to talk and come up with solutions together. Nothing gets done otherwise. We have to fill up a bathtub and have conversations because it matters a lot when we listen to each other.

Me, being a man, I’ve been through so much too. I used to listen to a lot of the fuckery but I’m shaped as I am today, right now, because I stopped listening to society. Society is not a good place. It’s a society that we’re trying to grow away from. We’re in cancel culture. But hold up—hold the fuck up—we need to talk about this. How long does it take to cancel someone? No time. How long does it take to think critically? To learn? It takes time. How much longer are we going to keep doing this shit?

That’s the dangerous part. We’re going to forget how to talk to one another, and then it’s really over. We have to do our job. Canceling people is not the job. We have to be able to have disagreements without disrespect.

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And as much as men need to respect women, women can’t cancel everybody.