Meet The Men
Conversations from a bubble bath about masculinity in a changing world.
One time I experienced toxic masculinity within myself. It was a lesson for me.
"We weren't raised to handle the conversations we need to be having."
If there is anything we haven't been talking about in terms of masculinity and representation, it’s men that are disabled.
Psychedelics made me face me.
I think masculinity is performance. I think femininity is a performance.
My success in pulling myself out of my Humpty-Dumpty moment has been a direct result of my involvement with young people.
I love being a man.
If we take a moment to honor virtuous behaviors in individuals, what a positive feedback loop that message can create!
I know so many men who have self-harmed because of depression.
I work with teenagers, and it’s a pretty crazy jungle for them right now.
The purpose of your life is to finish the chapter in the book that your parents started to write.
The first time I took mushrooms was a giant reset.
You only see the extremes.
Being a man means whatever you want it to.
Lots of famous guys died in the bathtub.
The #MeToo movement is great but there are some things that have bothered me about it.
Some guys never grow up. They stay stuck in boyhood and that is what we’re dealing with in society right now.
Sobriety brought me to who I am today.
We need to take a look at what we are actually trying to do, instead of just making noise.
I think #MeToo made guys wake up a bit and say...holy fuck!
They were baffled that a guy had spoken up...
I can have a ton of emotion but still feel masculine; one side of me doesn’t negate the other.
...being with my boys and calling out sexist comments, it takes a lot of courage to do that.
There are a myriad of factors that create a space for men like Harvey Weinstein to survive and thrive.
The number of mental health issues and pain that can be avoided from saying I’m allowed to cry even though I have a penis...
We need some heroes. We have plenty of villains.
What better way to teach young boys about life than through sports?
The worst thing you can do is raise an asshole.
The story of the coy in Japanese mythology is that...
I’ve seen my dad cry just as many times as I’ve seen my mom cry, which is why I’m not afraid to cry.
I think trans culture is going to be a huge part of pushing things forward.
There are a lot of conversations happening that involve men that don’t actually involve men.
If we’re divided...it benefits our ability to be controlled.
It’s okay to love your body.
I think toxic masculinity highlights the inherent power that men have regardless of whether they want it or not. From that platform of entitlement, it can be hard to see the plight of others.
How long does it take to cancel someone? No time. How long does it take to think critically? To learn? It takes time.
I get really excited about the age-out of a lot of leadership that is toxic, male, and doesn’t know how to adapt.
When you look at porn, the woman is the object and the man is imposing.
Masculinity doesn’t have to be negative.
...all I can think of is my mother.
Every single problem on this planet has to do with a lack of accountability.
I feel like I know how to get power so to consciously not choose it is uncomfortable.
My upbringing was very strict and religious but I made sure I didn’t let that define how I saw the world.
We can’t face the battle if everyone is fighting it differently.
...especially now that I have a daughter.
The ‘Men Who Take Baths’ party in Toronto included an interview in a bubble bath in front of an audience. This is the transcription of that conversation.
Highlights from Vancouver (2017/2019)
Highlights from Toronto (2019)
"I’m a white, blue-eyed, reasonably affluent young man. Am I allowed to have problems?"
I have to go out and be successful otherwise I’m wasting my privilege.